What does it mean to live life intentionally?
What would your life look like if you were not intentional?
What would it look like if you were?
These questions may seem simple, but they pack a punch.
I invite you to grab your journal & go through them after reading this post, then share with me if you had a breakthrough realization! I love hearing those <3
Living life intentionally, to me, means doing things in life on purpose, to elicit the most ideal experience/feeling you want to have, all while remaining in the now.
I do my best to live this way & I want to share my experience after having been intentional over the past 2 years. I started really diving deep into my own personal reflection & questioning what I wanted out of life in 2018. As I write this at the start of 2021, I am still refining this for myself.
I have a feeling this is something you're always kind of navigating. Because after all, as you age, your priorities should change. You aren't going to be in your 80's & have a new start-up company be your number one priority. You'll probably have your family as your number one priority, or be crossing experiences off the bucket list. By 80, I'm sure you want to enjoy the fruits of your labor, not have the labor be the priority. I digress.
Of course, even though I do self-reflection & question my intentions and do my absolute best to stay in the now... I'm human. And there’s a lot I do unconsciously even when I have the intention to be present. I am definitely not one of those who are able to remain present 100% of the time. I often get to my destination and forget driving there. I often find myself receiving downloads & having contemplative thoughts as I’m walking my dog, not noticing the person trying to get past me. I often listen to podcasts as I’m doing house chores, only to realize that all the chores are finished.
--- Can any human actually stay present 100% of the time? Because as a human, you're innately wired to be unconscious... you can hack the system to do "smart" unconscious things. But as human, we are habitual, and habitual things are done unconsciously... but can they be done intentionally unconsciously, and maybe that's creating those smart habits?? (If you have thoughts on this, I'd love to chat... please message me. This could turn into an Inner Bitch Inner Truth Podcast episode.)
Even though I go unconscious like every other human out there, I still make it a priority to intentionally live in the now.
As much as I honestly didn't resonate with Echart Tolle's message, because I saw it cause a ton of spiritual bypassing, I do understand the teachings he was attempting to get across.
I just think it's more of an advanced book than a beginner's book... but anyway.
The main lesson is that the now is where everything happens - where your self-reflection happens, where you can pay attention to your body, where you can hear what your body has been attempting to tell you, where your body tells you the answers to the questions its been longing to hear; the question it's been nudging your way through various "signs." We only ever have the now. And we should use it intentionally.
My intention for sharing the following story is to show you the power of self reflection, the power of committing to a life of intention.
In 2018, I began asking the questions:
Where it is I want to go, what is my destination?
What kind of life do I want to have?
How do I want to feel throughout my day?
What kinds of things do I have to be doing in order to feel that way?
I found that once you know these answers and start actually making decisions/taking action to get to that place, you either find it’s exactly what you wanted and it feels SO GOOD.
Or you find that it doesn’t feel the way you thought it would.
That maybe, just maybe you were after the wrong things, you thought it would feel different.
I’ve had both of these things happen in different areas of my life.
I’ve found that you often just have to make the decision, take the action and see how it feels.
I’ve found 2 different reasons as to why it didn’t feel the way I thought it would.
The first, is that the reasonings behind me wanting it in the first place - wasn’t mine.
The first is that the reasoning behind me wanting it in the first place - wasn’t mine. great things and one of the greatest accomplishments I could have is being a doctor. Once you’re a doctor, you’ll receive so much acknowledgment. You’ll finally be loved because you will be smart enough. Being a doctor wasn’t actually mine. It was the belief I had created. It may have come from my parents saying something to me through my childhood, but there really isn’t one single memory I have of that happening. I just knew doctors were loved for what they did & they are smart. I wanted to be loved and thought of as smart. (And I have always wanted to help people feel better.)
The second, is that you’re meant for more. ie. your soul purpose is more than your idea.
And this may actually feed into the first one - that it wasn’t my idea & dream. But in a way it is. I used to dream & want to be a 1:1 practitioner, with a brick & mortar office. That if I just had that, I would be SO HAPPY. I had my own office for a year. And I was not happy. It’s also because during that time I was deep in imposter syndrome & so scared to truly put myself out there. But regardless, I still did see patients there, and it didn’t feel the way I wanted it to.
So I closed up shop & continued to re-evaluate what it is I wanted to feel and what I wanted to spend my time doing.
One of my fav questions was: If you got paid to do what you LOVE to do, every single day, what would you be doing?
My answer is: learning, writing, and teaching.
“Holy shit. There it is Sar. That’s what’s meant for you.” I literally spoke this to myself.
I realized upon answering that question that I had never even considered these things to be a career. That I didn’t think of myself as a writer, as a teacher/speaker.
However, I’ve always been a big learner, at least in the things I was interested in.
I’ve always enjoyed writing down my thoughts.
And I realized that I have a lot of knowledge that I could teach.
And just like that, a whole new world for me to explore opened up.
This realization alone changed my entire life - and all because of tuning into how I felt & questioning what it is I want to feel.
If I had not done this. If I had told myself, “you made your choice to become an ND, and ND is what you will be. You are sticking to this. You are doing this and not giving up. You are not giving up on what you spent so much time, energy & money on. You are finding a good paying job and you will suck it up.” I would probably be suffering with depression, feeling frustrated, unfulfilled, lacking gratitude and joy in my life and envious of people who seem to be happy, because somehow they seemed to have figured it out.
I often meet people who are in this space.
By asking them questions & having them get intentional with the way they are living their days - I see them completely transform in front of me.
They become connected.
They start living in alignment with themselves, for the first time in their lives.
So I beg you to ask yourself, have you been living your life intentionally?
If not, how would it change if you started?
Sending you so much love friends.
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