"I know I need to work on myself, I just don't know where to start"

Updated: Dec 26, 2019

I often get told, “I know I need to work on myself, I just don’t know where to start”

My response is always this, the awareness is step one. And you’ve already become aware that there’s patterns that are no longer serving you. This means YOU ARE READY to step into a new way of being. Yayy! This is a MAJOR win.

My next comment is this - you can’t know where to go and what to do without first reviewing and accepting where you have been, and evaluating where you currently are.

So how do we go about this?

Sharing your story with me allows a great amount of healing, but for people who want to get started on the work beforehand - I recommend writing a self narrative.


This is deep work.

Set aside an hour or so of your time to really get into this practice, to make the most of it, and see great healing benefits.

Here’s how to do it:

  1. Get out your favorite pen and notebook

  2. Set a timer for 30 minutes

  3. Start with writing about how you grew up, what was your childhood like?

  4. Let yourself write your life experience, up until who you are today

  5. The key is free flow writing WITHOUT editing - this allows the goods to come through

The first time I did this, so much emotion came up!

I call the stories that create emotional disturbances “triggers.” Triggers are indicators that there is a “pain body” within the unconscious. If we can get to the root of the pain body, then we will be able to re-write the story we tell ourselves, stopping the pattern of triggers from happening in our lives. We are ultimately bringing consciousness to the unconscious, light to the darkness.  I view triggers as opportunities to forgive either self or others and invite love in. 

All suffering is an opportunity to invite love in.

Physics has proven that time is non-linear. This means that we can literally “re-write the past” in the present moment. We do this by sending love and dissolving the triggers energy to the past timeline.

- Use these questions to work through each of your triggers –  

What about this particular story made it emotional? 
What’s the root emotion? 
Is there a time from your childhood, adolescence or early twenties when you felt the same way or were in a similar pattern?
What did you need most in this situation that you did not receive? (i.e. To be respected, fully seen, accepted, equality, love affection, safety, heard, security, appreciation…) 

Sit in meditation and ask to be shown the first time you had this experience

and what you needed in that moment.

Then send love to that timeline and give yourself what you needed.

I'd love to hear about your experiences.

Let me know in the comments, or send me an email!

Sending love to you all,

Dr. Sarah

#selfhelp #selflove #selfawareness #healing #health #mindbodymedicine #mindbodyhealth #selfnarrative #selfhealer

11 views0 comments